Sorry, I have been busy on my job (police work) and working very long hrs. So I apologize for not posting anything lately. Now, today, we’re going to talk about how people just don’t show their emotional side anymore. It’s like we’ve become desensitized to everything and showing emotions is like taboo. Well I believe by doing this we forget these important things. Like peoples feelings, helping people when they are down, and most importantly treating people the way you would want to be treated. Everyone seem to be out for themselves. When’s the last time someone held a door open for someone else. Or going to a check out line, letting the other person go first. People speaking (a simple hello/how you doing) or smiling (just to show a kind face). The world has changed and times aren’t what they use to be, but we can’t let it change our hearts. We all need to work at showing a kinder side (me included, for those of you who know me, lol). This world is getting bad and we have to do something before it’s to late. Stay safe, stay loved, and take care of each other.

Ok, I have a question, since when do we feel that everyone has to see it my way or no way. When do we think we know it all, even with people that has the years and experience. What happen to listening and learning from people, who has been through it. What happen to keeping a open mind and sharing each other’s opinions to find a better way. Too agree to disagree and still respect each other enough to be friends. Last I checked, God created us all and yet people try to act like one race is better than another. God as made it clear, we are all God’s people. Black, white, Asian, Hispanic, whatever nationality, we are all one people. So until we realize this and treat each other as such, then we’re doomed to fail. We must learn to see what’s inside a person and not judge what’s on the outside. I leave you with this. We must learn to see a person’s true self by getting to know them, before judging or sizing them up unfairly. That way we are not cheating that person’s chance to express themselves or our chance to see who a person truly is. Have a blessed day.

Today lets talk about our the seriousness of this virus as people are stuck in their homes, do to the pandemic. We first must understand that staying inside and keeping social distance is for everyone’s safety. Some believe it’s not real, but wake up people, lives are being taken as we speak. Whether this is a ploy or not, the government trying to control us or not, the fact is, there is a virus 🦠 out here taking people’s lives and should not be played with. Why must it hit our homes before some realize it’s killing people. Not discrimination at all, it will take young and old, fat or thin, short or Tall, man or woman, adults or children. Does not matter what race, creed, sex, or religion. If it gets a hold of you, there’s a real chance that you will die. You catch it and bring it home, a real chance of it taking one of your family members. We need to acknowledge the fact that the virus is real and sit down for minute, before it sit us down for good. For those that have to be out there (essential workers), follow your safety guidelines so that you go home safe and don’t take it home to your families. These are unique times and we have to be careful. I will pray that God watches over us and have his angels protect us during these times of need. God bless and have a blessed day.

Lets start with decision making and how we have to be more careful. How we can’t always just randomly do things and that all actions have their own consequences. For example; as children playing and one child sprays another child with water 💦. The other child response with spraying water 💦 back at the other child. Typical response, but now we have a teenager at a party 🎉 and one teenager accidentally steps on another teenager’s shoes. The teenager feels disrespected, so he starts a fight or worse yet, he pulls a gun and shots the other teenager. First, what ever happen to saying excuse me and I’m sorry. Second, whatever happen with just fighting (if that) and letting it go. People, we have to be understanding and not so sensitive. We need to learn to let the small things go and live life. Now, I been told I should be careful on how I say things and to not tell people what to do or say. Well, I like to think of myself as a Bernie Mac blogger, cause I’m saying and tell people what others want to say or thinking. I’m just saying it nicer. Everyone is different and all have their own opinions/beliefs, but with that we still need to understand that we need to try and respect each other’s space. Make better decisions for one and all. God bless and have a blessed day.

Well, as I have said, I’m new at this and getting it started. I invite everyone and anyone to look at my blog/share it. I invited all comments and ideas to share and debate about in a civil matter. Only by communication and listening can we learn and grow as a person/people. To be able to get along and hopefully respect each other’s feelings and beliefs. With that being said, I don’t invite individuals that want to cause calamity and drama. I don’t want anyone that don’t want to better themselves and others. I am a open minded person to a point, but I stand firm on my beliefs. I am a Christian and through the blood of Jesus Christ, the father and the Holy Ghost, I will always be. I will talk about all aspect of life, but my beliefs will be Christian based. So, if that offense anyone I apologize now, but I will not stop nor change. I can only suggest that if you do not like what you read that you can quit reading it or go find something else to your preference. Now that, that has been said, lets get to why I’m doing this blog. I was always told as a little boy, that if we didn’t like something or believe something is wrong, complaining about it won’t change it but doing something would. By speaking out and being the one to start the change, is the beginning of the change. Our society, no our world is spiraling down a road of degradation and something has to be done. Our youth seems to have lost any forms of moral guidance. Some parents are still trying to teach their children, but a lot of parents are letting the TV, the internet, and lord forbid today’s social media teach and educate our children. We, as a person, as a family, as a people, need to stop 🛑 and get a hold of this situation before it’s to late (if we’re not already past that point). Now (hear it comes) through God all things are possible and no matter at what point we have reach, God can, will fix it, if we start doing our part by standing up to help make a change. Which comes back to my blog. This is my part by putting out information for people that want to make that change. To show other options and to set a community network, where people can ask questions and share options that may help others to do the right thing. I am only one person, but together, as others join maybe we can make a Difference!!! God bless and have a blessed day.

Sorry I’ve not posted here lately, been busy at work fighting crime. Today I want to do something and talk about something that if you’re in a serious relationship, you need to know. First, one must understand and except the fact from the get go that a relationship/your relationship is a 50/50 partnership. That means there is not compromising on this part of the relationship if you want it to work. Why? It’s simple, no one wants to be in a relationship where they are being controlled or have no say so. Especially in a situation that affects their way of life/lifestyle. Second, there is no room for egos, pride, selfishness, entitlement, entanglement 😳, or better yet no I in team. A person has all of these issues/vices and as a single person uses them to attract people/dating mates. What people don’t realize is, when you go into a relationship, you have to understand that there’s no need for these vices in that aspect anymore. Instead you have to do something (that in this time and age is hard as crap) that most people are scare to do and that’s let your guard down. Think about it people, if this is the person you believe will be your, “love of your life” than you have to be willing to do this. You have to be willing to love unconditionally. People think they understand that word, “unconditionally”, but please let me explain. Unconditionally means; when you’re mad as hell at your better half, but you still do things to help them. When they keep making the same mistakes and you forgive them every time, no matter what. When they kick you when you’re down and they’re suppose to have your back, but you still worry about them and you still do the little things anyway. Unconditionally means no matter what you will always have their back. That’s when they know you’re mad at them, but they don’t worry about you leaving them hanging. When you have this, that makes it easier to do the first, letting your guard down. The only problem is, the way people are now a days, it’s hard to do these things. So, what do we do? We go back old school and start with getting to know each other. I mean really get to know one another and build a friendship and trust which leads to the first (guard down) and second (unconditionally love) things needed in relationships. I will try to hit on issues and ways to have a successful relationship each month for those that are interested Because I believe it is very well needed in today’s Society. Now I saved the best for last. One, to help y’all understand why I feel I can advise people about relationships is simple. I am married (only once) and have been so for 28 going on 29 years (but going on 30 together). We have had our good times and bad. We’ve been up and have been down. We have two children (well, a son and a daughter, which are both young adults now) and have dealt with it all (even one having a immune deficiency disease). We’re both over 50 and between the both of us, have seen our share of events. So I feel and believe I can speak on the matter of the heart ❤️, some what. Which finally get to my point. I don’t like or believe face book to be a good thing and I don’t care for it (not to say it’s that way for everyone). My family on the other hand do use it. My wife get to show and express her love for me on face book to the World and now I finally get a chance to do the same. My wife sometimes feel she don’t help enough in our relationship, that is so far from the truth. She keeps the house clean, she makes sure I have something to eat. She takes care of the whole family (putting us before her own needs at times). She makes our house into a home and no one can ask for any more than that. My wife always ask about why I married her? Well it’s simple. She is the most caring, kind hearted, loving person I know. She funny, she listens and makes me feel like the most important person in the world. She speaks her mind and when I need it, keeps me in check (which guys, if you have a good woman then they’ll do that to help better their man). She is my best friend and lover. She’s my whole world and I can’t thank God enough for bringing her into my life. I alway tell my wife this on a daily basis, but today I wanted everyone else and the World to know who keeps me motivated and pushing to better myself. Til next time and to my wife, I will always love you and thank you for sharing my life.

Well, a fight that has been going since slavery. A battle of showing that all men are equal no matter what has turned wrong. First, this is 2020, where we have all kinds of races and all kinds of life styles. Yet there’s the issue of a individual being oppressed simple because he is to dark or the wrong race. I’m a former United States Marine. I have been in law enforcement for almost 25/26 years. I should be able to do or go anywhere. I should be shown the respect such training and service deserve. There’s just one problem, I’m a afro American subject and I don’t get it all the time. My white counterparts can do similar things that I’ve done in my line of work and get way more praises than I do. Now am I saying that everyone treat me this way, no, but there are individuals that do (especially in the high ranks). Now, with that being said, I can point it out and raise total hell, but most likely they would find a way to discredit me and get me out. So I have to be smart about it. Same with the crooked/corrupt police, we must choose our battles carefully. First, not all police are out there just keying on blacks. So we can’t be out here witch hunting on every bad incident that involves a police and black subjects (that means look at it, but don’t assume that they have racial motivations). Being a police is a hard job and being new, sometimes officers mess up. Second, the good/decent police are just as upset as the public, do to the fact that it’s wrong and it tarnishes our badge that good officers wear with Pride. If we as blacks want to change things, then we have to try to come to a common ground with the police. Now, don’t mistake my wanting to work with the police a giving in because I’m a police, because I have it even harder. Why, because when the time comes and I have to stand up to injustice, I will and will deal with the after mass that comes from my partners that I work with on the street (but right is right and the minute we stop standing up, we lose it all). Not to mention, besides my family, I would have to deal with it alone. What it boils down to is, be smart about how you address the issues of the racial cops. Example; don’t try and fight with the police on the stop, go to internal affairs. One, you’re alive that way to tell your side only the way you can, being that you’re the victim. Second, you’re still here for your family. Fighting then (unless it’s a life and death situation) only makes you look guilty and gives them reasons to do what they’re going to do. Don’t help them hurt you. We have too much Technology nowadays to catch things that fighting right then will not help, but possibly make it worse or another life lost.

What has happened to people being adults and handling problems as such. Why are people expecting the police to handle all there problems. People are not talking face to face. They have to use the computer or text, which the problem with that is not always taking the correct meaning from the words sometimes when you don’t hear them or hear the way they express what they’re trying to say. We have to slow down and regain what we’re losing before it’s to late.

and regain what we’re losing before it’s to late.

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton