Relationships and wife’s

Sorry I’ve not posted here lately, been busy at work fighting crime. Today I want to do something and talk about something that if you’re in a serious relationship, you need to know. First, one must understand and except the fact from the get go that a relationship/your relationship is a 50/50 partnership. That means there is not compromising on this part of the relationship if you want it to work. Why? It’s simple, no one wants to be in a relationship where they are being controlled or have no say so. Especially in a situation that affects their way of life/lifestyle. Second, there is no room for egos, pride, selfishness, entitlement, entanglement 😳, or better yet no I in team. A person has all of these issues/vices and as a single person uses them to attract people/dating mates. What people don’t realize is, when you go into a relationship, you have to understand that there’s no need for these vices in that aspect anymore. Instead you have to do something (that in this time and age is hard as crap) that most people are scare to do and that’s let your guard down. Think about it people, if this is the person you believe will be your, “love of your life” than you have to be willing to do this. You have to be willing to love unconditionally. People think they understand that word, “unconditionally”, but please let me explain. Unconditionally means; when you’re mad as hell at your better half, but you still do things to help them. When they keep making the same mistakes and you forgive them every time, no matter what. When they kick you when you’re down and they’re suppose to have your back, but you still worry about them and you still do the little things anyway. Unconditionally means no matter what you will always have their back. That’s when they know you’re mad at them, but they don’t worry about you leaving them hanging. When you have this, that makes it easier to do the first, letting your guard down. The only problem is, the way people are now a days, it’s hard to do these things. So, what do we do? We go back old school and start with getting to know each other. I mean really get to know one another and build a friendship and trust which leads to the first (guard down) and second (unconditionally love) things needed in relationships. I will try to hit on issues and ways to have a successful relationship each month for those that are interested Because I believe it is very well needed in today’s Society. Now I saved the best for last. One, to help y’all understand why I feel I can advise people about relationships is simple. I am married (only once) and have been so for 28 going on 29 years (but going on 30 together). We have had our good times and bad. We’ve been up and have been down. We have two children (well, a son and a daughter, which are both young adults now) and have dealt with it all (even one having a immune deficiency disease). We’re both over 50 and between the both of us, have seen our share of events. So I feel and believe I can speak on the matter of the heart ❤️, some what. Which finally get to my point. I don’t like or believe face book to be a good thing and I don’t care for it (not to say it’s that way for everyone). My family on the other hand do use it. My wife get to show and express her love for me on face book to the World and now I finally get a chance to do the same. My wife sometimes feel she don’t help enough in our relationship, that is so far from the truth. She keeps the house clean, she makes sure I have something to eat. She takes care of the whole family (putting us before her own needs at times). She makes our house into a home and no one can ask for any more than that. My wife always ask about why I married her? Well it’s simple. She is the most caring, kind hearted, loving person I know. She funny, she listens and makes me feel like the most important person in the world. She speaks her mind and when I need it, keeps me in check (which guys, if you have a good woman then they’ll do that to help better their man). She is my best friend and lover. She’s my whole world and I can’t thank God enough for bringing her into my life. I alway tell my wife this on a daily basis, but today I wanted everyone else and the World to know who keeps me motivated and pushing to better myself. Til next time and to my wife, I will always love you and thank you for sharing my life.